The Introvert Hangover

 

Do you ever feel your energy has drained after some social gathering, party, or any interaction with your friends? Have you wondered why?

Oh My god! What's happening to me?

I shouldn't have gone to that Social gathering

Netflix and chill is easier than this

My head is twirling, My brain started its overthinking pace again 

You can call it a hangover but not from alcohol it's from people.

If you ask me which set of people on the planet are misunderstood the most the first answer would be introverts.They are often labeled as shy, She doesn't talk much, I hardly see him/her outside, arrogant, etc. Introverts are always misunderstood not only by people but also by psychologists.

The majority of people do not understand what an introvert actually is. This is true even among psychologists. She notes to her readers that dictionaries and thesauruses, as well as psychology texts, use words like aloof, shy, self-centered, mysterious, withdrawn, and reclusive to describe introverts. Conversely, extroverts are described as outgoing, gregarious, and friendly.

Extroversion has become the ideal norm in our society, and those who fit this norm are rewarded. Since childhood I have always been told if you continue to be this shy and reserved it will be difficult for you in the future you need to be outgoing and among people.

“We live in a culture that caters to and extols extroverts,” Dr. Laney writes. “We definitely learn that extroversion is the way we should be.

What Exactly is Introverting?

 

One of the best ways to define yourself as an introvert or extrovert or ambivert is observed that do you feel increased in your energy levels after meeting people. Most extroverts feel energetic among people whereas introverts feel deprived. They feel energetic and gain energy from the activities like spending time with themselves or reading a book, walking.

Introverts, on the other hand, process internally, much more slowly, and usually after the fact. We actually tend to pick up more information from the world around us than extroverts do (which is one reason why places with lots of noise, flashing lights, and energetic movements feel so overwhelming to introverts), and then our brains sort through all the input to decide what is important and what can be discarded. When something in the midst of all that input catches our attention- a comment someone made, for example- we tend to analyze it at length, looking for various meanings and interpretations.

Introverting is psychological many of us have heard about dopamine the feel-good hormone. Psychologists say that introverts' and extroverts' brains function differently whereas coming to this hormone because the level of dopamine is high among extrovert individuals than introvert individuals. Small activities like cold weather, walk or rain increase dopamine among introverts.

Introvert Hangover

Coming back to the topic

I believe my personality is like a "necessity switch" if the situation demands me to be extroverted in-office meetings or gatherings I speak to my full heart. If I see a red flag alert in any person I meet I don't speak up at all. Actually, I feel very lazy to open up.

But this introvert hangover has happened and happen to me all the time even though I'm not that much of an out-going person but when I do I need at least a day alone to be back to my normal self and of course, thoughts like I should have said this or that or I should have at least opened up for some minutes, etc.

As said earlier introvert brain functions differently every time there is an unexpected social gathering or event there is a backlog in brains functionality and to keep functioning at its normal pace it needs some time to fix it and get back to normal.

Ways to deal with it

In the first place, it's important to know yourself oh I'm an ambivert I need people to keep up and also have some alone time to get my peace that itself is great. If in fact, I say the unplug is productive because we gain energy after this  All I can say and will say is what triggers that drown-up feeling is it any specific people is it my appearance, or it does not depend at all that's important to know in the very first place. I know we come from a culture where not socializing sounds abnormal and different but keeping yourself first on the priority list is the most important. If you feel there is a need for a break after socializing it's totally fine psychology itself says it's not negative at all.